Sunday, January 22, 2017

The Shaadi Brouhaha..: Arranged Marriage Hungama


Launching a newbie into the Indian matrimonial scene is like introducing a new iPhone in an already saturated market – has to be sleek, overflowing with catchy features, and better than the already available versions. So when twenty-five-year-old Nitya Trivedi is forced into it by her ever so enthusiastic mother and pestering relatives, she hardly knows what she has bargained for. In her journey to find her soul-mate (??!!), she becomes Dollarkumar’s Poundkumari, ends up fasting on party days to make peace with her horrorscope, attends hilarious ‘arranged’ meetings through various matchmaking portals and people – all under the nose of her extremely evil, but deliciously debonair boss Rudra Desai. With besties tying the knot and cousins ‘stealing’ prospective grooms…wonder how Nitya’s mother will find the perfect match for her only daughter. But as always, love will find a way in the midst of The Shaadi Brouhaha.
My Reviews:
Set against Gujarati background, this book gives a first-hand experience of the arranged marriage scenario. Most of us would connect to Nitya. A story heard by all and normally gone through if you are having an arranged marriage. I liked the way the author touched the common topic with a dash of humor to it. It’s a nice, breezy read with no major twists but puts a smile on your face. Those who got married would connect to the incidents mentioned. Those who haven’t will get an idea of how arranged marriage works.
My rating: 

For a debutant author, she has done a good job. A feel good book with a happy ending. Makes a nice light read. I would rate this 3/5. Hope Ms Shah keeps writing such simple and entertaining books.

Saturday, January 21, 2017

In laws

The most important and complicated relation in marriage is dealing with In laws .It can be tricky as well as smooth, depending on how both of them handle/ treat the other one. The most things here are the mindset. If you treat your daughter in law as one, be less judgmental and try to listen and understand her point of view too. The same thing applies to the daughter in law too. Most of the times, a girl when get married looks forward to keep the families bonded and not break as is the notion. I feel the mindset of blaming the in laws/ daughter in law for anything going wrong with your son/ husband is clichรฉd and untrue. 

Every relation has its own strength and weaknesses, working on them would make them strong. Communication is very important and to be keep an open mind to what the other has to say. Closed minds are like locked doors, without opening the lock cannot be opened.

Respect and trust is the most important thing. Instead, we keep holding grudges, keep things to ourselves, go on a defense mode, misunderstand and things go downhill from here. In laws can be like another set of parents, only if both parties believe that can happen.

Life is short and our take away is not material things, only good name and great memories. Make living the life worthwhile.


Friday, January 20, 2017

Why


There are so many whys which remain unanswered. A human mind is an amazing creation. So many thoughts cross our minds every day. I wish could count them. Maybe i would lose count as they are innumerable counts that a mind goes through every day.

1. Why my rotis don't come round all the time?
2. Why is losing weight so difficult for those who want to lose and vice versa?
3. Why does mind wander so much?
4. Why do many (most) of us make promises and break them?
5. Why are the simple pleasures of life lost?
6. Why do we get the best of thoughts when we are asleep or busy?
7. Why can't we read others mind? Half of the world problem would be solved.
8. Why is ego so big? Why do we value our ego so much?
9. Why do we crave for moms food as we grow up when,as kids all we loved was eating out?
10. Why are good times short and worst/ bad so long?
11. Why do we always wish to go back in time?
12. Why are the childhood days so special and we always miss those days?
13. Why do people change? 
14. Why do we miss/ value our parents so much after we grow up?
15. Why do we start valuing things once we start losing them?


And there are so many questions that remain unanswered.



Thursday, January 19, 2017

Musical Thursday

Listening to songs is my passion. As i always say "There's a song for all occasions" .  I love humming to songs.  Today's favorite is 








Wednesday, January 18, 2017

World of blogging

I never planned to join the blogging bandwagon; it was just an impulse decision. Out of curiosity I started penning my thoughts. I had asked my friends to read and share their thoughts on the same. They liked and said that gave me a little push needed to start a blog. Now it’s been close to 6 years that I have been blogging. Yet learning everyday something new and I am excited about this.

I found lots of wonderful blogs like from the editions of green boochi, dreamymommy, little princess to name a few. I was amazed and am still amazed by their clarity of thoughts, writing flair and what not.


Every time they out do themselves with a new and even better posts. These things motivate me to do better. Even today, my blogs are not very famous or known, but a few of people follow me and read my blogs. There might be lot who read and never comment or add themselves, but it’s OK. Earlier, this used to disappoint me, I even thought of just deleting this space, but thought better of it. Today I am in a happy space when I take part in blogothon or complete a challenge. I may have not gained many friends but knowledge, yes. I too will reach my desired place.

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Lows of Life

Tough times are sometimes very cruel. They have an ability to shatter even the best confidence. The saying “When the going goes tough, the tough gets going” is very apt and true. But there are times when everything goes wrong and you are just bugged and in mood to even make an attempt to set things right. How do we go on in these times? How to gather yourself and bounce back?

Some tricks I feel helps are:

Believe in self, maybe things are not great doesn’t mean wouldn’t be ever. Situations and times change. Wait for the right time.

Pick up a hobby: I know maybe not a right thing to do maybe, but definitely help. It transports mind to a different direction and helps relax. Especially reading, cooking, walking, dancing are good stress busters. Make a choice and learn something new.

Laugh more. Watch good/ comedy movies. Big stress reliever is laughing.

Keep yourself engaged. There’s nothing worse than an empty mind. 

Pray/ Meditate, they have the power to heal us.

Write a diary, penning your thoughts, feelings. Every time and everyone will not understand how you feel. Writing helps.

Go out, meet people, make new friends, and call your parents. Be around good, genuine people who can keep you sane and strong.




Monday, January 16, 2017

Something new learnt

With a busy week ahead,  and a nice weekend passing by with festives, getting back to routine is difficult and boring. So today when kiddo went to school and back, and it was time for class, and he was not in a mood to go I was not happy and dint talk to him for sometime. He tere dil talking, I didn't respond.

Later when he went down to play, n I was thinking,  I realised I'm being so unreasonable, as a kid even he has right to be moody like we do. So what's wrong in he taking a day off as per his wish?  That thought Transported me back to my childhood when we never went to any class and played all the time. When one day he wishes that why was I unreasonable??

The next moment I said sorry for my childish behavior and he like all kids forgave me too. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜ƒ


Whoever says kids don't teach us anything?  I today learnt a valuable lesson :to respect his small choices too..